|Posted on June 7, 2015 at 10:50 AM||comments (259)|
Tough Questions to Ask When Considering Couples Counseling
Asking good questions–of yourself and your partner–helps you uncover causes beneath causes.
In a strong disagreement, do you really believe your partner is entitled to their opinion?
Under duress, do you have the courage and tenacity to seek your partner’s reality and the courage to express your reality when the stakes are high?
Why is it important to let your partner know what you think,...Read Full Post »
|Posted on June 7, 2015 at 10:45 AM||comments (12874)|
Couples are often uncertain what to expect from the process of couples therapy. They are not sure of what to expect of the therapist or even if the therapist has any expectations of them.
I have found most couples approach therapy with the idea that you will both share your side of your story and somehow the therapist will assist them to create a happier, more functional, relationship. They expect to learn some new or better skills. However, most people hope their partner will do most ...Read Full Post »
|Posted on June 7, 2015 at 10:40 AM||comments (548)|
How to Maximize the Value from your Couples Therapy Sessions
A common yet unproductive pattern in couple’s therapy is making the focus be whatever problem happens to be on someone’s mind at the moment. This is a reactive (and mostly ineffective) approach to working things through.
The second unproductive pattern is showing up and saying, “I don’t know what to talk about, do you?” While this blank slate approach may open some interesting doors, it is a...Read Full Post »
|Posted on December 18, 2014 at 5:25 AM||comments (328)|
Infidelity: Mending your marriage after an affair
Infidelity causes intense emotional pain - anger, disbelief, fear, guilt, shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage. Understand how a marriage can be rebuilt after an affair.
When an affair is first discovered, both partners feel as if the world has collapsed - you're left wondering whether your marriage can survive.
Few marital problems cause as much heartache a...Read Full Post »
|Posted on October 5, 2014 at 4:40 PM||comments (432)|
When it comes to sexual purity, men are facing unprecedented challenges and temptation from every angle in today's increasingly sexualized culture. The online pornography industry is changing everything, especially now that Internet porn is immediately accessible on most cell phones and usually anonymously–seducing and enslaving even some of the most committed Christian leaders. The statistics are sobering (www.CovenantEyes.com):
• 68% of young adult men and 18%...Read Full Post »